Comma or Full stop?

Why is there always a need to define your relationships? Why can't you just live in the moment and be happy about it?

People at one point or another do need someone in their life to confide in them, to depend on them to have comfort, care, protection, faith, love, trust, loyalty, strength and support. Someone whom they can call their OWN. To whom they can show their vulnerable side and be their real self around them with all the layers of self doubt and pessimism.

We almost always fear to take that leap of faith to trust another being with our secrets for we fear being weak in front of them and fail to enjoy the precious beautiful moments of present which could have been celebrated with happiness. We  lose them in the shadow of an unpredictable, unknown and a very uncertain future, a future what we might think will probably play out.

But then again, is it really our fault that we cannot invest our trust and beliefs in other people? I guess not, because we have all been hurt, at one point or another because of every other person whose bound to us in any kind of relationship be it our parents, our siblings, other family members, partners’, friends, colleagues, associates and acquaintances irrespective of the person with whom, or the situation in which, the fault actually lies. Majority of times, both the parties involved in a hurting situation are at fault as the saying goes, you cannot clap with one hand, it takes two to tango but, instead of acknowledging this fact we always play the blame game, cheat ourselves and then start fearing what could have and should have been a beautiful, promising bond.

That's where the real need to define a relationship comes to picture. Being hurt because of the actions of people in your life is pretty common and natural because there are emotions involved and they are known to be fragile because they work on the mechanism of whims and fancies and wants and desires. What is important here, is to acknowledge that hurt and work in the direction of doing the right thing by that wrong. And these relationships provide you the real picture about how much effort you can and you should need to put in to make the amendments. Every defined relationship have their own essence and limitations and the liberties you can take in it depends on their boundary with fencing of respect and mutual admiration for each other of the people bound in it.

Also, future can be all uncertain it wants but, the possibility of having the same moment of happiness for an eternity is always welcome for us humans. The prospect of having an undefined happy present can be all scintillatingly inviting but, turning it into your reality for forever by accepting the bond with a bow won't hurt either. You just have to be brave enough to admit and accept the importance of the other person in your life, it will always boost your efforts of keeping them close to you forever.

So, take chances, accept reality, if it does not work out even then, MOVE ON. At least, you won't have the regret of not giving it a chance, giving life a chance.